*Cues Drake* The good ones go when you take too long.
This is true both personally and professionally. So where do you find the balance between romantic love and love of profession when both have yet to be established? I have been passionate about this topic for a long, long time. For me, the ideal situation has always been falling in love with my other half at the same time I would be falling in love with my profession. Hopefully theres still hope for this scenario since I currently have neither, but I digress.
I am woman who fully understands my 5 year and ten year plans have goals on them thats are not simply personal or professional. My desire to be a billionaire by thirty does not keep me from wanting to be married by twenty-eight. In fact, I am hungry for a partner who not only stands by my side as my personal yes man, but allows me to be the cheerleader to his ambitions as well. There is a certain intimacy in support, both personal and professional, that I crave. Also, there is something incredibly sexy about watching the person you love achieve each and every one of their dreams. Who doesn’t want to be along for that ride? Sure, there will bumps on every road, but enduring the journey together creates a bond that is hard to break. As young professionals we are still impressionable and being cemented into our futures selves. Maybe its just me, but I would love to be around to experience the events that helped my future Mr. become who he is.
On the flip side there are those of us who do not see this coin as fifty-fifty. Ultimately, one goal will need to be chosen first and career happens to be most important. I like to call this meeting on the back nine of your life. You’ve played the course or found your pot of gold but now realize its time to focus on the person you want to share the rest of your life with, as well as the experiences who made you who you are. At this point you are probably stuck in your ways just as much as your new romantic prospects are. Can you blame them? Most of us have been committed to being as selfish as possible for the majority of our lives but now I need to meet you half way and compromise? The thought is laughable. You know what else is? Settling for a chump who lets you run over them and have it all your way. I’m sure your new professionally dominate personality will love that. Game over. Blouses. NEXT!
All bias aside, overall the most important part of life is happiness. Once you find true happiness within yourself it is hard to give up, but happiness that comes in the form of a lover or career path is just as hard to compromise on. Who says you need to live without love to follow your dreams? Why can’t you find love after success? Whatever it is you decide, make sure you can’t live without it. Make sure it enhances every aspect of your being. But more importantly make sure the love is mutual.